Dear Purple Reader,

The world is torn asunder because we despise and detest, reject and repel one another. Hence, S.H.E. is a common trait that has led to the destruction of many. S.H.E. should have no root in our lives. By S.H.E., I mean Self-centeredness/Selfishness, Hate and Envy.

When one tends to think only about herself and not the needs or feelings of other people, she is regarded as Self-centered. To be self-centered is to build up oneself at the expense of others. That is, having ‘ME’ in the center of your world. Self-centeredness is self destruction in slow motion (2 Timothy 3:1-7).

Of course it is possible for one to act from pure compassion to her neighbour without selfish payoff. Like Jesus Christ, when he stated that “… my meat is to do the will of Him that sent me, and to finish His work.” For Jesus came down from Heaven not to do His own will but the will of Him that sent Him.

Dear Purple Reader, selfishness comes to play when an individual has excessive thirst and burn for what I call the 4Ps –Power, Pleasure, Property and Profit.

From the foregoing, it is evident that our leaders today are Selfish! Small wonder John F. Kennedy posits thus, “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.”

Charity and humility I believe will help annihilate self-centeredness.

Let’s take a quick glimpse at Envy. An envious person is one who lives a life full of comparison. The Holy book added that such people are fools!

“… but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.”

Note that love does not envy. An envious person cannot wish anything good for his counterpart. Envy ‘triggers’ negativity. If envy resides in a person’s heart and it is not dealt with, it can lead to murder, as was the case with Cain and his brother, Abel and then, Joseph and his brothers.

James 3:16 says that “… for where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work” it is pertinent to note that the spirit of God will not dwell in such places.

Hate on the other hand arises from the false re-affirming conclusion we have of a particular person. People hate because they do not love. A loving heart has no place for hate, bitterness and malice.

Common examples of hatreds are prejudices against black people or the common hatred today of the Bible and all religion.  Others hate anyone who believes differently in any way than they do. Hate and envy is some sort of vicious cycle, as hatred begets envy and envy begets hate.

Hatred is not necessary as it only hardens the personality and eventually sickens the body. It’s best you take action rather than harbor hatred. Do what you must do in the situation if someone has wronged you. But remember, do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.

The apostle John succinctly states, “Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him” (1 John 3:15).

We are rational beings capable of ordered thinking, capable of love, acceptance and mercy. But if we have a choice, then why do we so choose negatives, such as Selfishness, Hate and Envy?


Dear Purple Reader, if thoughts of S.H.E. were thunder and lightning, there would be a storm over the whole earth. There is only one remedy for hate and that is love, a love that is patient, kind, does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, not rude, not self-seeking, not easily angered, keeps no record of wrongs… as it is in (1 Cor. 13:4-7).

Remember, God is love! Why not ask Him to intervene today!

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Hope to hear from you soon.

Yours truly


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